In 70 years of living and talking to hundreds of people, I have come to the conclusion that most people feel cheated by life or unhappy is because of two related causes: either somewhere along the way, somebody - a parent, a teacher, a religious leader - gave them the message that they were not good enough, and they believed it. Or else they came to expect and need more from the people around them - their parents, children, husband, or wives - than people could realistically deliver. It is this notion that we were supposed to be perfect and that we could expect others to be perfect because we need them to be that leaves us feeling constantly guilty and perpetually disappointed. If everyone was perfect than there would be no need for religion. Religion helps a person deal with the dysfunctional world. It helps a person deal with imperfect people.
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